What is Coaching?
Coaching is a partnership created between 2 people that creates powerful results. Instead of providing you with all the answers, a coach trusts that you are the expert on your own life, and asks powerful questions to challenge you to come up with the solutions for yourself. Coaches help people to identify their values, develop life or career goals which are aligned to those values, and provide the framework in which to realise these goals in order to live a more fulfilling life. A coach provides the challenge, support and accountability to get clear on what you want for your life, overcome fear, and start taking action, all in a non-judgemental environment.
Coaching conversations are 100% confidential. What gets discussed won’t be discussed with anyone else, so the client can feel at ease about opening up about what is blocking their true potential. The coaching takes place in a location that suits both coach and client (could be a hotel lobby or a cafe), and there would normally be four sessions, each lasting an hour. The sessions are normally spaced out by about two weeks, giving the client time to reflect and put into action the learnings gained.
What do people get coached on?
People can be coached on almost anything. The main difference is that a client wouldn’t be coached on trauma (as you would in counselling) and the coach does not offer advice or guidance (as you would in mentoring or consulting). I have coached people on topics ranging from planning and organising, to health and wellness, relationships and dating, and career direction.
Are results guaranteed?
There are widespread reports on the benefits of coaching both for businesses and individuals. It is proven to work. Having said that, the results are up to the individual, not the coach… it’s the client who puts in the work, so your results are entirely dependent on you! The client comes up with their own solutions and commits to taking action based on what they want to achieve. The coach can hold you accountable, but can’t “make” you do it, that’s totally up to you.
How much do you want to change? Are you willing to put in the work? Can you feel the fear and do it anyway? Can you be comfortable with the feeling of “resistance”?
What is resistance?
Any time we want to make a change in our life, we have to leave our comfort zone. That feeling you get – anxious, exposed, vulnerable – means that change is afoot. This is called “resistance”. It doesn’t feel good (I know from experience!), but know that it is a healthy indicator of change. Without that feeling, it would be impossible to move forward. Think of your first time to do anything, whether it’s driving or presenting to a large audience, anyhow you felt. Did it stop you? No? Good! How do you feel about it now? That’s the far side of resistance (you made it!).
I still don’t like failing or making mistakes, but that’s where you’ll find the greatest learning. I’ve come to accept myself as a “learner” in anything new that I try! I don’t promise to have all the answers, because everyone is on their own journey.